My Dreams in therapy.

Psychodynamic interventions and techniques in a therapeutic context.

This article will be longer than the previous one. For your information, the first part of the text is edited to avoid similarity in other texts from the same field. Also, I include a bit from a dream work, from personal practice to more understanding and bring you a bit closer to the work of psychotherapists and psychoanalysts

The therapist uses many methods to help the clients to achieve the aim and see the progress in the therapy. Clinicians believe that correct diagnosis is the key to good therapy. To be more effective the psychotherapist needs to know the diagnosis but is not that simple and do not happen in the first session.

What distinguishes psychodynamic theory from other psychology approaches is work on the unknown, on human subconsciousness. Also, ID-EGO & SUPEREGO. The psychotherapy techniques that have valuable work on an unknown side of the human mind were born from the Jungians – like the archetypes, anima and animus, know as the shadows of human being and Freudians psychoanalytical school.

I will start here from the most common techniques are Transference and Countertransference, and Free Association with Dream analysis.

Transference and Countertransference.

Psychoanalytically oriented clinicians believe that childhood experiences have a huge impact on the current mental state of an adult. The psychoanalyst’s work in this area is directed at the exclusion or separation of childhood experiences. And then again, link the facts of the individual’s early relationship with his adult life. This is how we learn what lies in the past and affect our psyche today.
The task of the psychoanalyst is to make us aware, help us understand existing relationships and re-learn healthy behaviours. Client work has a huge impact on improving mental health and emitting unhealthy thought habits.
The therapist, following the client’s thoughts and statements, uses the “free associations” technique to achieve a greater understanding. During therapy, there may be client anger translated into a psychotherapist, but these are only transfers that serve the therapist to better analyze the events.

The clients learn about themselves and touching what they feel as this is essential. Their unconscious and conscious fears and defences mechanisms are forced aside with this method. The client can express their unhappiness toward the therapist, for instance, because of the subconscious thoughts about his family members or others. The therapist does not endeavour to answer a question or find out about memory but instead follow the stream of thoughts from the client. While lying on the couch, the unconscious self is opened to the therapist who can use free association to get to the nucleus of the client’s issue. It is not enough that the therapist tells the client what his conclusion is, it sometimes is a long life process of therapy if the client decides on psychoanalytical treatment.

Free Association.

In order to gain knowledge about the client, the psychoanalyst uses interpretation of dream, Freud uses a metaphoric expression. When he says,

“The interpretation of dreams is the royal road to a knowledge of the unconscious activities of the mind”.

Psychoanalysts would spend long periods of time on a single dream, whereas psychodynamic therapists only employ dream interpretation at the request of the client. Psychodynamic therapists help clients explore their dreams and scrutinise the symbolism within them “Say what comes to your mind”. The client communicates their uncensored and undirected thoughts and associations of ideas in a nonjudgmental arena, which may reveal restrained memories, wishes and dreams.

Free association is also a key element within psychoanalysis and psychodynamic therapy. It is thought that allowing an individual to speak freely about whatever comes into their mind will prevent defence mechanisms from being used, thus the actual truth within the person has more chance of coming out. A psychoanalytic therapist uses interpretation techniques to help the clients identify the cause of their issues, which will help them increase their control over them.

The best way to check a Freud’s thory of dreams is to analise your own dreams. Through dreams we better understand our personality and we see the difficulty of everyday life. Jung had a different opinion about free association, which is that it lacked any substantial value, and that what must be considered are the dream descriptions. When all is revealed, then the client and therapist are ready to see separate images and are ready for understanding and clarification of the dreams.

Dream analysis.

Dreams and symptoms tell us a similar story. Both are final complementary products for people who are unaware of the implications of their childhood and are looking for a discharge. This example shows how the psychoanalyst can manage the process with a client to evaluate and compare the work with dreams. Free association can also be used with a client to show the therapist and themselves the similarity of the client’s everyday illness and those expressions in dreams.

A dream can not only help in understanding the past, but they also offer propositions as to desirable future activities. For instance, the client who dreamt about a fire engine. The client was on the ladder and was rising at high speed, experiencing a feeling akin to being on a plane while landing. The client stated:

‘The pressure is so big that it created a terrible pain in my ears. Then I woke up with pain in my right ear. Afterwards I visited a doctor. I was told that I have inflammation of the inner ear.’

That unpredictable issue shows that dreams can inform us about approaching situations. To better understand dreams, it’s good to make notes after waking up. Trying to remember details such as objects, feelings, and colours help to analyse the dreams, which bring the client and therapist closer to a good conclusion of the case.

‘An uninterrupted dream is like an unopened letter.’ Carl Gustav Jung

Moreover, dream analysis. (Arlow 2005) writes:

“The idea that dreams could be understood occurred to Freud when he observed how regularly they appeared in the associations of his neurotic patients. Dreams and symptoms had a similar structure. Both were end products of a compromise between two sets of conflicting forces in mind – between unconscious childhood sexual wishes seeking discharge of Id and the repressive activity of the rest of the brain which is ego and superego.”

A bit more abouts dreams

The finnal work of psychoanlise was not only a Freud work, the idea was implemented from early philosophers like Nietzsche and manny others. In other hand Jung interprets dreams as an aid in the future spiritual activity of the individual. Jung emphasizes that he knows what he dreams about without those dreams being interpreted by a psychotherapist who may be wrong. Jung believed that the therapist still needs to learn new interpretations for each dream, thus emphasizing the focus on the client’s dreams, not on the content of “free associations”. The images of the dreams of each unique client arise from the archetypes of the collective unconscious, and from the traumatic and distant memories of the dreamer.

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Different types of counselling and psychotherapy, which one is right for me?

The differences in counselling.

We know of many different types of counselling that can be used to provide mental care to the person or group of people receiving counselling. The psychotherapist must choose which approach to therapeutic intervention will be appropriate to the specific case and situation. In addition, the therapist must be certified with experience to work in a specific modality. What I am saying here does not mean that the therapist must have a degree in a particular treatment. However, it is good if your psychotherapist will keep some recognized papers or it can be easily explained that he is providing humanistic or psychoanalytical treatment.

On my personal example, I can say, “yes I provide humanistic-existential practice ” because in that modality a got training. However, as a psychotherapist, I was trained in general counselling and psychotherapy approach but my choice is working in a humanistic modality with the Rogerian approach which is Person-Centred Therapy and Beck’s Cognitive Behaviour Therapy. You can freely ask the therapist if they can work on bereavement or CBT therapy.

Usually, the psychotherapist knows in which field he cannot work, and which is very well known to him.

Some types of counselling are: spiritual, supportive, crisis, individual, preventive, group, family and grief counselling.

I will describe in simple words the last three, that are:

  • group counselling,
  • family counselling,
  • grief counselling

Group counselling, as the name suggests, is a consultation for a group of people, not for an individual participant in therapy.

Several problems can be carried out in particular group therapy, e.g. addiction, anxiety, depression, eating disorders, relationship difficulties, schizophrenia and others, which can be conducted in groups. By participating in this type of therapy, we can gain many benefits not only from meeting people with similar experiences or feelings, which will facilitate understanding of the problem we are struggling with and allow us to better understand ourselves.

Today’s therapy involves small groups of seven to twelve members, which allows for more comfortable meetings for clients and therapists.

At the beginning of the group session, the therapist encourages the client to introduce himself to the other member, tell him why he is participating in therapy, and what he expects of these sessions. The therapist then invites someone to talk about their own experiences and thoughts that arose during illness or suffering. Some members do not participate partially in several sessions until they are fully comfortable participating in the discussion. Instead, they just sit and listen before they feel ready to talk. However, that behaviour may not be accepted by other members of this group but is ok if someone does not talk for a while. That is also a process same as silence in therapy. That is time for a particular group member to process some thought in their own time and that should be respected by others.

Family counselling is offered when a family is in a difficult situation and is unable to solve the problem on its own. During family therapy, family members work with one or more therapists to improve relationships and family life. The therapist tries to explore the problem inherent in family life and find out what his views are on a given situation and plan together how to solve the dilemma.

Sessions were held with individual family members, ranging from 45 minutes to 1 hour, during which the family member was free to comment on what was bothering him. Family counselling takes several weeks as it is the time needed for each family to resolve a problem. However, it is often the case that only one family member who has a problem affects the rest of the household, that could be it a child or an adult, or caregivers and the elderly.

For many families that type of counselling can be beneficial.

Using a form of family therapy can help to solidify the relationship for marriage. Before the family decide to find counselling support, they have one option and that was the only separation, divorce to finalise the drama in the family home which is created by many factors and individuals.

In the family can be an issue with domestic abuse and the therapist is also not indifferent to parental abuse and problems with teenagers. In that case, is involved a social worker. If not police. If in the family is an issue with domestic abuse where special is involve children. The counsellor is obligate to inform the social worker in Tusla or any relative organs who is responsible for the health and safety of the family. The same situation will happen in counselling session one to one where the client is at risk of self-harm, suicide or involve in harm other people.

Bereavement and grief counselling is a form of psychotherapy in which we can learn to deal with the loss of a loved one and remain grieving for as long as necessary. It is up to us and how long such a period will last and we should not insist here because each of us has a different reaction, and each has a different degree of attachment to a lost person or a pet that remained a family member.

The counsellor psychotherapist focuses on travelling together with the client in the pain of losing and finding the meaning of inner balance and re-learning one’s own feelings and behaviours, which are often surprising ourselves

“as long as we do, we will not see it ourselves” despite the fact that we can describe in words what we feel, it takes time to understand what happened to us.

There are several tasks, such as adapting the aid to the stages of mourning. Help them to accept reality by going from denial to recognizing facts and so on. Help reflect the emotions that are in touch with their feelings, and not an easy process, often we do not recognize what is going with us, because of core beliefs. However grief needs to be a process – otherwise, it may come back in a different form in a later period.

The task of the psychotherapist is to bring the sufferer to a situation in which he allows him to express the client’s hitherto hidden emotions. The psychotherapist will be work with crying, aggression and regret. And the client will find a place where he will be able to free himself from his emotions. The Therapist will take the burden of human guilt off their shoulders and help them adapt to the new reality. Sometimes it can be a distraction from what is lost and what lies ahead. After all, the person who has lived the grief of loss must find what is lost in a new place in their life. That is, to establish new roles and new perspectives that change frequently.

The attitude towards the lost continues to evolve, although it still holds an important place in feelings and memories, Therapy will work with a client who needs to find strength and motivation to continue.

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The role of defense mechanisms

Defense mechanisms, as the name suggests, serve us in defense, they are precisely preventive. As soon as the information about the threat appears, the brain automatically sends information to the whole organism about the probable or already existing danger. Then the heart rate increases, muscles tighten and the general information is simple “fight or flight” Such reactions appear in a stressful situation. And it is the most healthy normal function of our body that protects us from danger.


It is a bit different with the mechanisms that appear in the pure nature of our psyche. Such creations also appear in stressful situations, although the reactions are slightly extended than just “fight or flight”. Our Ego is responsible for stimulating defense mechanisms in the mind and it was it that, with the help of the superego and subconsciousness, created a given defense system, called as mentioned in the title “defense mechanisms” which I will discuss below. It is your Ego who is the judge whose role is to fulfill the requirements of the Id and the Superego. The pressure of these forces causes anxiety and fear in individuals. To defend the body against fear and fear, the body reaches deep into its capabilities and creates a defense mechanism appropriate to a specific situation and one that restores the body to a state of balance and peace.

Defense mechanisms are automatic forms of reacting to situations of unconscious fear or anticipation of possible danger. Examples of common defense mechanisms include avoidance and denial. Both act as situations that trigger thoughts or emotions that a person cannot tolerate at the moment. In the short term, such defense mechanisms can improve the functioning of the body as mentioned above, allowing you to control potentially overwhelming feelings.

However, such processes can cause problems in practice if they tend to obscure or distort reality.

For example, a student who is expected to study for an exam spends time playing online games or using social networking services instead of studying. To counteract the intense anxiety a student feels when he is about to start studying, he chooses another option that helps him become relaxed. The same situation arises when we have to learn or finish an unwanted project, suddenly we clean, wash, etc. what we don’t do on a daily basis. Our brain will always give us something to do so that we do not have to stress. Such a stepping stone can be a defense against avoiding boring studies or difficult math. However, it is a programmed part of our mind, as can already be seen from the introductory description.

Another example is when we have to finish an ASAP project and say “I have time to do this later” and we automatically feel better in a stressful situation because we have replaced the behavior with procrastination. As we can see, our mind protects us from stress by creating situations that exclude it.

In order to understand defense mechanisms, it is worth knowing a little about the psychodynamic view of our personality.

Freud believed that our psyche is not our physical brain, but rather our nature. Using the iceberg analogy, Id is hidden from sight in our subconscious. Ego and Superego are predominantly above the water and in our consciousness.
Id is a primal and instinctive part of our personality and can refer to a wild child who is guided by emotions such as death, sex, and libido. According to this hypothesis, we are born with only the Id part of our personality, developing the ego and superego around the age of three to five.

It seems that the defensive phase develops very early in human life and thanks to it we can survive like any other living organism.

Freud’s basic concept is to recognize first experiences relevant to the situation and transferred to the original state of mind. Experience creates an inherent pattern of behavior in adulthood. Thus, defense mechanisms are used to protect against feelings of anxiety or guilt that arise when we feel insecure or when our Id or Superego becomes too demanding.

As an example here may be a child who, as a rule, does everything against parental expectations or other requirements and demands. When we ask a child who is hungry to give away food, sweets, toys, etc. This is the child, caused by his instinct, to refuse to give up what is necessary for him in his understanding. Another could be lying to avoid punishment.

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How the psychotherapy work ?

 The purpose and nature of counselling and psychotherapy are helping people with their emotional crisis on how to solve those problems and make their own decisions. Usually is a dialogue between two people or a group where one person is a counsellor and others called a clients in modern world. If you think about patients that we can met in psychiatric ward and other hospitals area. Patient is a person more describe in case of medical support but not necessary in counselling and psychotherapy field.

Counselling should have a non-judgmental role with good listening skills and help resolve some problems but never give advice or directly encourage the clients.
By counselling, we can try “resolve problems” but we never can expect the counsellor resolve the issue for us. Counselling is known as psychotherapy as well as a part of psychology. Counselling Psychology etc. It is needed where we have difficult feelings which are discomposed in basic life. The profession of counselling we can find it in many areas as a teacher and youth workers and all education area where they will direct young people. Many counsellors we can meet in Social Work however, the work and duties can be slide different from one to another, but always will follow the knowledge, experience and code of ethics in that field.

Psychotherapist can work with individuals after accident and disaster time to counsel the victim and their families to give a mental support to dealing with difficulty which client need to facing and in many different events during the life, like pre-marriage counselling, divorce.

Change job, stress related to job or any traumas since birth to death which often are difficult to hold and is not of our choice that something happens.

Basically, counselling takes place when two people can talk in confidential and private where a client can explore himself. Where in a professional way the client can understand his life. All the issue discussed in the session should be confidential and never share with other people. By counselling or therapy, we should expect understood own feelings, build confidence and receive empathy.

As we know counselling and psychotherapy are similar roles nevertheless counselling can be used in basic sessions whereas psychotherapy is used to deal with the deep-rooted issue. However that names are rechargeable or use together, is depend of the country of practice and their regulations.

Where else counsellor work?

The counsellor can help when it is properly prepared for the profession and has the appropriate education too. The counsellor could help others when people can’t manage themselves, when they hold depression or any mood disorder or some life problems like divorce, eating problems, sexual health, trauma, anxiety or addiction.

A counsellor could help in many places where it’s needed and where the profession is required, such as workplace, schools, police station, nurse home or disability society, on the disaster, catastrophe or any accidents and in many voluntary agencies.

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The psycho sexual stages of development.

When I sit down to write this article is Tuesday March 9, 2020. You can listen to this post on my podcast. Today I will try to talk about the psycho sexual stages of human development. Referring to Sigmund Freud and his “Three Essays on the Theory of Sexuality”.

It was published in 1905. Freud believed personality problems we have in adulthood, were the results of early experiences in childhood. A key concept related to psychoanalysis concerning the development of the personality is that of the five stages of psychosexual development.

All of which occurs from birth through to adulthood. Each of these stages plays an essential role in the development of an individual’s personality. People can become fixated at any stage which hinders their transition to the next phase.

The five stages are;

Oral; occurs between the birth of a child to their eighteenth month of life. Fixates on all matters oral i.e. hands in the mouth and playing with own feet. If not satisfactorily met, there is a likelihood of developing negative oral habits or behaviours. When the child in adulthood does not realise the progress on this stage, he or she is at high risk of overeating, over smoking or excess of drinking alcohol or developing an eating disorder such as bulimia. (Freud, 2016)

Anal; occurs between eighteenth months and three years old. As indicated, this stage is primarily related to developing healthy toilet training habits. Anal and the pleasure of excretion, helps to reduce tension in the child’s life. Toilet training will be affected in adult life. Freud believes that could be a problem with authority in further life. Harsh training teaches one to be very tidy in the future, but lack of training could develop into a of habit of being rumpled and sloppy.

Phallic; occurs between 3 to 5 year of age. The development of a healthy phallic, substitutes for the sexual attraction that pre-schoolers must feel toward a parent of the opposite gender. Phallic, is the next stage when a child is interested in his or her genitals. When parents of children, who are in the stage of 3-5 years old and the caregiver says to them, “that is dirty do not touch”, this will, in time, build stress and shame on the individual. Also, if a child starts to feel attraction for the opposite-sex parent, that could produce a complex of Oedipus, Electra or Cassandra i.e. a child wants to marry own mother and push away his father.

Latency; occurs between 5 to 12 years of age. It is often referred as the development of healthy, dormant sexual feelings for the opposite sex. Latent stage in the opposite sex; children lose interest of the phallic stage and avoid any interaction like kissing, touching. Children prefer to play with same-sex. A rise in the distance between girls and boys.

Genital; occurs between 12 years old to adulthood: All tasks from the previous four stages are integrated into the mind, allowing for the onset of healthy sexual feelings and behaviours. Rise an attraction and interest in the opposite sex, and sexual drive is developed.

This article seem to be a bit sensitive subject, but I believe is still very educated.

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The Id, Ego and Superego.

When I sit down to write this article is Tuesday March 9, 2020. Late afternoon. I will be continuous today of Freud’s Psychoanalytical thinking, including the Id, Ego & Superego

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Continuity of Freud’s Psychoanalytic Thinking, Including Id, Ego, and Superego

In the 1920s, Sigmund Freud named the three parts of the human mind that were the basis of the personality structure. Freud called it Id, which deals with the principle of pleasure. The ego was related to the reality principle and conscious as full superego consciousness, which is related to the morality principle as pre-conscious and subconscious beyond our consciousness and is unavailable. All of them have played a vital role in the function of our behaviour and each of them is in a conflict beyond human consciousness.

ID

The Id component is with us from birth and can be inherited. It is completely unaware and includes instinctive and primitive behaviour. Our psychoanalytic Freud believed that Id is the main ingredient of nature. Guided by the principle of pleasure, interestingly, if we vented our Id, an element of our psyche could lead to socially unacceptable and burdensome behaviour. As Freud’s psychoanalytic hypothesis of personality indicates, Id is a segment of identity consisting of unconscious mystical vitality that attempts to satisfy fundamental desires and need. Id works on the principle of joy, which requires immediate satisfaction. Id is one of the three unusual parts of identity that Freud hypothesized. Id is essential for young children as it allows them to make sure that their basic needs such as food or drink are being met. Id functions are found in the irrational and emotional part of the mind. After birth, your baby’s brain is loaded with a full ID for all your baby’s needs. It is helpful for the survival of a living organism, and in the human and animal world, ID acts as a self-preserving instinct. It is difficult to imagine a life or ordinary existence without it.

Ego.

Freud argued that the Ego mediates the demands of the Id and the Superego, finding an intermediate path that is realistic in the world around. The ego is an assembly with three different levels of consciousness and it develops in the first three years of life. The ego is the conscious and rational aspect of the mind. In addition, it is an element of the personality that is responsible for dealing with reality and tries to satisfy Id’s wishes in realistic and socially appropriate alternatives. The ego prevents us from acting on our basic urges but also works to achieve balance with our moral and idealistic standards. The ego focuses on a more rational, problem-solving state of mind and will try to think through solutions until the problem is resolved. This is sometimes referred to as “reality testing.”

Without our ego, we would have remained in the past and our conservative functions would have remained primal and undeveloped. One can here consider the morality of the Ego, although I believe that opinions can be divided and there will be people who testify that it is the ego that created morality.

Superego

This aspect of the personality, called the Superego, is the last to develop and appears when the child is about five years old; it contains the standards and ideals that a child adopts from our guardians. He tries to suppress Id’s urges and make the Ego act idealistically rather than realistically. The superego also works on all three levels of consciousness. The superego deals with self-criticism, self-observation and idealism. The superego becomes the embodiment of parental and social values. It stores and enforces the rules. It constantly strives for perfection, even though this idea of perfection may be far from reality or the ability of individuals. However, this element of our psyche will be work on implementing new laws and behaviours. This work will come from the ability to induce anxiety, the end result will be turned back into the perfectionism of the surrounding morality and ethics.

When talking about Id, Ego, and Superego, it is important to remember that they are not three separate beings with clearly defined boundaries. These aspects of personality are dynamic and always interact with people, affecting the individual’s overall personality and behaviour.

For fun and greater understanding, ask two more people to do this exercise. Let’s say you are Ego. Your Id may be on the left and a superego on the right. Now both Id and Superego start talking to you aloud at the same time on the same topics.

They both have different opinions because they were built on different core beliefs and values.
Do you remember?
You are the EGO and you have to make the right decision.

Finally, you see the hard work our Ego. 🙂

Just on the end …

The horse is the Id, and the rider is like ego which controls the movement. (Freud, 1923, p.15)

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Drives and Instincts.

When I sit down to write this article is Tuesday March 9, 2020. Late afternoon. I will be continuous with a psychoanalitycy Freudian approach.

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In the Previous Post, I was talking about Ego, Id and Superego. Now I want to say a bit more about our psychoanalytic mind and introduce the Drives and Instincts of our mind.

A publication of Freud’s book “Beyond the Pleasure Principle” in 1920, gives the reader explanations how the drives and instincts which consists of the mixture of both Eros and Thanatos which create our mental existences.

Eros is the drive of life, creation, love and sexual gratification. His driving energy is libido. On the other hand is Thanatos, who is the drive of death, destruction and aggression. Automatically it crossed my mind of Brahma & Shiva from Hindu Trimurti, where Brahma has responsibility for the creation of life and Shiva is the one who takes the charge of the end of all existence. However, we should not confuse Psychoanalytic Freud’s approach and some religious beliefs. Although, have some similarity, but this will be discussed at another time, perhaps in Carl Jung’s manifestations.

However, there is a conflict between Thanatos and Eros in all existence but both of these drives, have a tendency to melt together with the environment rather than avoiding the isolation from one to another.

The concept of death instinct was first described, in which Freud proposed that “the goal of all lives is death.” Freud believed that people usually direct their instincts of death outside as aggression, as a result of the instinct of death.

Sometimes these instincts towards destruction can be directed inwards, which can lead to self-harm or suicide. Thanatos is the drive to die – in his destructive nature and personifies the subconscious desire for death; the self-destructive drive attempts to accomplish Thanatos’s goals and self-destruction.

Freud saw in a sexual instinct the result of chemically induced tension in the body that causes the pain and desires to be discharged. The purpose of sexual desire is to remove this extreme tension. During sexual acts that the libido is satisfied and accompanied by pleasure.

In the end, Freud claims that the full and unhampered satisfaction of all instinctual desires would lead to mental health and happiness.

Personal, I can not wait to find out more about that complicated topic which is love and desire in the psychoanalytic approach.

The horse is the Id, and the rider is like ego which controls the movement. (Freud, 1923, p.15)

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The structure of the mind.

When I sit down to write this article is end of March 2020.

Today I will be talk about the structure of mind remaining in the psychoanalytical trend. You can listen this post on my podcast.

According to the theory of the mind of Sigmund Freud (1856–1939), intellectual abilities of individuals arise from a mental mechanism that develops in grouping and within three objects; id, ego and super ego. This gives rise to his theory called psychoanalysis. Freud trusted that people could be relieved by passing on to their consciousness their own unconscious thoughts and inspirations, in other words, by making the individual aware of his own thoughts and motivations, we support the rational way of thinking of the individual. This thesis justifies human behawior and gains insight into the construction of the human mind. As well as numerous techniques in psychotherapy, which liked the basics of psychoanalysis and knowledge about the mind, were used to build other psychotherapeutic techniques

Seligman 2006 noted that the concept of Freud’s ternary called “id” as biological, “ego” as psychological and “superego”, which is a social component, is a kind of map that creates a human personality. Seligman goes on to comment that all the elements work together as internal forces that create our personality.

Sanders in his book:

It seems that modern psychotherapy derives from Freud’s work, either directly or because his work enabled discussion and study of mind and behavior because it made people think that behavior could be logically linked to theoretical states of mind .

To understanding, the human mind is worth to understand the core of the psychoanalytic theory. Freud presented his model of the human mind in the essay “The unconscious” published in 1915. He believes that the subconscious takes around 55% of the whole mind where an unconsciousness 30-40% and consciousness only 10% of our psyche. (Freud’s Model of the Human Mind | Journal Psyche, 2018). According to him, consciousness is not the most critical layer of the psyche, but it mainly concerns current events and knows that something can perceive the control of incoming stimuli. Information on why something is happening is included in the unconscious, in which most mechanisms that motivate behaviour takes place. Thus, the role of consciousness can be defined as monitoring and control of behaviour, while the role of the unconscious is to induce and direct behaviour. Merely been consciously forgotten and no longer necessary to us, for example, automatic thoughts. It is from these memories and experiences that our beliefs, habits, and behaviours are formed.

The unconscious mind is allocated a layer deeper in mind with similar information. The unconscious mind is really like a hard disc in a computer with all your memories, habits, and behaviours. It is the storehouse of all our deep-seated emotions that have been programmed since birth. The concept of inner conflict is a prime example of psychodynamics work.

“The division of the psychical into what is conscious and what is unconscious is the fundamental premise of psychoanalysis”. (Freud, 1923)

They are the conscious, subconscious, and unconscious. Working together they create our reality. Freud believed that mental activity took place at three levels of consciousness: unconscious which is beyond our awareness and inaccessible, pre-conscious such as a regular activity and conscious as a full awareness. The id, ego and superego are the tripartite of a Freudian structure of the personality. The id is the thickest part of the unconscious, the ego is the conscious and reasoning aspect of the mind and the superego is that part concerned with self- criticism, self-observation and idealism. Sanders in his book note: Modern psychotherapy seems to spring from Freud’s work, either directly or because his work made possible the discussion and study of the mind and behaviour because it made people think that behaviour could be linked logically to theoretical states of mind.

“To love means to be actively concerned for the life and the growth of another.” 

― Irvin D. Yalom,

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Understand psychotherapy.

Today, I will be talk about Counselling and Psychotherapy. My name Is Marcin Bogucki and I am Psychotherapist in Private Counselling Practice. All information which you find her are from my counselling practice and educational material which I used during my college.

Basically, counselling takes place when two people can talk in a confidential and private where a client can explore himself. Where in a professional way the client can understand his life. All the issue discussed in the session should be confidential and never share with other people. By counselling or therapy, we should expect understood our own feelings, build confidence and receive empathy but not limited to that only.
A counsellor can help when he is properly prepared for the profession and has the appropriate education too. The counsellor could help others when people can’t manage themselves, when they hold depression or any mood disorder or some life problems like divorce, eating problems, sexual health, trauma, anxiety or addiction.

The purpose and nature of counselling and psychotherapy are helping people with their emotional crisis on how to solve those problems and make their own decisions.
Usually is a dialogue between two people or a group where one person is a counsellor and others called clients. The counsellor and psychotherapist should have a non-judgemental role with good listening skills and help resolve some problems but never give advice or directly encourage the client to take steps in the implementation of any actions that are only caused by the psychotherapist’s motives.
By counselling, we can try resolve problems but we never can expect the counsellor resolve the issue for us.

Counselling and psychotherapy are used alternately. Someone will say that I have counselling, but someone else will say that he will see his psychotherapist. Both of these names are correct and although this profession is related to clinical psychology, one should not confuse psychologist with psychotherapist and vice versa. For the pure reason, a psychotherapist does not work as a psychologist, and a psychologist may not always be a psychotherapist. To be eligible to practice as a psychotherapist, you must complete an appropriate psychotherapeutic course. Such differences also arise in the case of a psychiatrist who has completed medical school and is also not always entitled to conduct psychotherapy. However, some old schools argue that counselling and psychotherapy are similar roles nevertheless counselling can be used in basic sessions whereas psychotherapy is used to deal with the deep-rooted issue.

As we can see, these professions are related because they all work to improve mental health, but each performs a different job to achieve the intended purpose, and each of the professionals has a different type of knowledge. The work of a psychotherapist is beneficial when we are struggling with a life dilemma when we have difficult moments which we cannot cope with, and our thoughts disrupt the basic processes of life.

The counselling profession can be found in many areas: as a teacher, youth workers, and in any field of education where they will help guide others in their lives, but never impose their own agenda. Even though there are many psychotherapeutic schools, the basis for finding your own meaning is trusting yourself. If a particular technique does not work your therapist should know it in order to respect you and save both of you time. It is not an art to sit 50 minutes with a psychotherapist, the art is when the therapy starts working, although it takes time and rarely such a healing process will appear after one or its own sessions. It takes time, and time is a process.

A counsellor could help in many places where it’s needed and where the profession is required, such as workplace, schools, police station, nurse home or disability society, on the disaster, catastrophe or any accidents and in many voluntary agencies. The psychotherapist also works after accidents and disasters to provide psychological support to the victim and their families and during many different life events, such as family counselling, job change or work-related stress, or any other conflict from birth to death in which a person is involved.

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Love and sexuality

Today, I will be talking about Love and Sexuality. My name Is Marcin Bogucki and I am a Psychotherapist in Private Counselling Practice. All information that you find here is from my psychotherapy practice and educational material from continued professional development.

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Our sexuality could be weak or strong, and sex is the central aspects of the partner relationship which could be motivated or demotivate for all of us. Love, together with awareness and understanding, is what brings us into a relationship with the people and things around us. In essence, love is a relationship that should be built on respect and trust o both side.

According to Frankl, the founder of Logotherapy, the only way to understand other human beings as they indeed are at their innermost core is to love them. In Frankl’s psychotherapeutic system love is as fundamental and powerful force in human life as are the drives for sex and power. Victor Frankl expresses that connection beautifully in one of his books:

“Two are superior to one since they have a decent return for their work: If one tumbles down, his companion can enable him to up. Be that as it may, feel sorry for the man who falls and has nobody to enable him to up.”

Our relationship in this life according to simple rules is attachment, love, and dependency, building a great human existence. Comparably says Yalom in his existential psychotherapy book.

“To love means to be actively concerned for the life and the growth of another.”

― Irvin D. Yalom,

All loving relationships contain ambivalent feelings. As a human, we know how to love because we learn from our parents or caregivers. Our initial associations with guardians and parents assist us with forming an attachment to love which endures throughout our lives. This is once in a while alluded to as transference. Freud called attention to when we discover an affection process, we are really “re-discovering” it.
On the other hand, it is the subconscious creation of our own world with a partner to receive what we did not receive in childhood or to maintain what we have already received with satisfaction from our parents and guardians. Nurturing what is good or possible struggle to “fix” what is imperfect.
Thus, the regularly perceived wonder of people who select accomplices helps them to remember their mother/father.

We have all observed it in our family or in others. A person whom we love is a part of ourselves. Freud described something unusual and similar. We include aspects of those we love in ourselves. Their characteristics, beliefs, feelings, and attitudes become part of our psyche. He called this process “internalisation”. Expressions like “my spouse are my better half” or “I am searching for my soul mate” contain Freud’s conception of the depth of the relationship between people who love each other.

That of the considerable number of variables in human life that anticipate the best positive results, reliable connections are number one. These explorations demonstrated discoveries incorporate to what extent we live, the soundness of our bodies, the prosperity of our psyches, and the joy we involvement throughout everyday life.

Research shows that people who live in a healthy relationship are less depressed and no suicidal and happier and live healthier. It is proofed that a human who has a disease have more chance to survive when they will be in a relationship with others and stay with a group rather than have to suffer alone.

This was especially noticed in the case of observations of children who lived in an orphanage. Those who were separated from the others died early of the same disease. This is sufficient evidence that man should stay together with other individuals in difficult times. A quite similar situation took place in the extermination camps during the Second World War, where mutual comfort helped many to survive, and those who were deprived of companions died much faster alone. One has to look not far to find many such examples in human existence.

Moreover, this is the reason why relationships are important. The evidence that humans are social animals is extensive and concrete. The right combinations are a fundamental part of human health. Careful consideration of acquaintances, family, and other relationships can enable a person to improve well-being and flourish. It is through identification with other individuals that one develops and makes progress in expansion and growth by experiencing affection in love and importance. We all depend on someone and something – and this something is usually made up of other units in society. That’s why we know that individuals play a key role in our lives.

As we already know, “our sexuality can be weak or strong, and sex is a central aspect of a relationship that can be motivated or degraded for all of us.” Sexual desire or liboido, whatever we call it, is dictated by the desire to establish a relationship through a relationship or some other form, still dictated by the desire to be together. Love and sexuality is such a broad topic that it’s hard to describe it in just a few words. In order to delve into such a subject, one should also look at this fact from the point of religion as it was already said “that God has linked holiness with sin”, this dependence derives from our knowledge of religion and beliefs. Another aspect is love for oneself and for the same sex. We can see for ourselves how measurable it is and how the topic expands. When I finish writing this article, I see myself what potential man has in himself and how can I describe this topic to make it more accessible and raise such an important issue as sexuality in our existence.

Thank you for listening and see you soon.
Your host Marcin Bogucki on Private Psychotherapy Practice with Remote Counselling.
If you like to contact me to book an appointment please use the details below.

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